Recently my Twitter timeline was filled with banter over a controversial column written in the local newspaper. The column was similarly titled, but despite the broad statement I found that it was very specific to economic and emotional factors. This saddened me, given the size of the soapbox the writer was given.
Don’t get me wrong, I don’t think people should have kids to save their relationship, or to serve as a long term meal ticket or risk putting families into poverty. However; I think people have forgotten the reason why people have kids.
To make a long story short, despite our biological inclinations to reproduce, there should be a larger purpose for having children. No no, not like “Jah know, him drop out and don’t even have a youth yet”. Having kids is more than just carrying on your name, it’s about a legacy. In days of old names carried meaning, a history of where you are coming from. This was lost in the Caribbean thanks to the slave trade, piracy and modernisation. We need to create a better legacy as a society, with each family contributing a part of it.
In the age of millennials, we all have this desire to define ourselves, adjust perception and have our actions meet our goals. Unlike the baby boomer years or before, we have no clue what we are doing. In the 40’s and 50’s you were 23 and had a career path. Now you are 20-30 and the job you will have next year might not exist yet. On top of this we have more social influences and increased competition to be successful (because of education system, media, parents, gaps in economic earning potential). So we are in a flux of not knowing what our career is, who we are, what
a relationship is (radical change in family life is entire different analysis). Then boom, us kids are supposed to have kids with very little life experience (cultural and professional).
I’ve been writing a post about love and selfishness since last year (was supposed to be a new year’s message), but it http://www.cialisgeneriquefr24.com/cialis-expedie-deurope/ ties into this directly. Don’t worry about the money (but think ahead, be responsible and do what is necessary). Don’t have a kid because you love your partner, or trying to keep them. Don’t have a kid because the state or child support will pay for their welfare/health/education etc. Don’t have a kid because your vanity wants your name to carry on or you want a mini me (if this is the reason, you really shouldn’t be having kids. Probably ever. Try Photoshop and Instagram). Have a kid because you want to improve the world. Have a kid because you have found so much wrong with the world and you want to equip the next generation for being better. Have a child because you have figured out what life is about and you want them to experience all of it’s splendor while equipping them for it’s pains. Having kids isn’t about you, it’s about the improvement of the human variable in the formula called life.
Think Big. Oh and when all else fails, wing it, we are the most adaptable generation, just keep the above in mind.
Note: This is not a solution, this is not a guide, there are much bigger problems not factored here. I just wanted to add my 2 cents.